I think as [young] parents, we often forget that our kids are growing up every second. Yes, we say “Daddy just needs to work” and be gone 9 hours every day (more if work is far from home) thinking it’s the norm and the kid forced to understand the context as an adult. But they are not adults. Let’s admit, it’s a compromise that takes a lot of toll on our kid’s growing up years and we know it. I often think that because my wife is a stay-at-home mom, she can pretty much cover for whenever I’m not around. This shouldn’t be the case—not ever.
I, for example, wake up at 5:30am on a typical working day. I leave the house at 6:45am because I have to face a 2-hour commute to and from work (2 + 2 = 4). Needless to say, I leave the house with my kid still sleeping. I get off work at around 7:00pm (if I’m lucky) and reach home at around 8:45pm (traffic going home is a little lighter). Take off dinner and I only have a couple of hours to spend with the little one.
Most of the time, I’m preoccupied with stuff (see: “me time”) right after eating dinner. Next thing I know, it’s already time to give her a shower and tuck her into bed. This has been the routine ever since but I’m glad I came across a couple of blogs that showed me how important time is, especially what we do with what little we have of it.
Every second is just as important as the next one. The time we spend watching TV or just idling around resting our minds from work could’ve been better spent fooling around with our kids. They only stay as kids for a very short period of time—make sure you don’t miss it.
As one blog said: “Don’t just add years to her life, add life to her years.”
In a child’s eyes, every second is a lifetime. In a child’s eyes, the world we adults know is pretty different.